擇偶條件
和老同學見面回憶往事，談到我們年輕氣盛二十多歲時的擇偶條件笑成一團，沒有顧慮到現實沒有想想自身的條件可否配合，找對象的時候眼光總是往高處著眼，要英俊迷人身體好，要有錢有勢有家世，要羅曼蒂克加溫柔體貼，要幽默風趣又有高學歷，身高體重合乎標準。
如果本身不怎麼樣，又一直著眼於這樣的男士，結婚的希望越來越渺茫，一晃到了三十好幾，所謂的條件就自動修正起來，把英俊改成好看就可以了，所謂的好看是頭上還有一些頭髮，能懂得點禮貌，會為女人開門拉椅子，聽的時候比自己講話的時候多，能欣賞女朋友煮的菜，口袋裡有點錢可以吃一頓燭光晚餐，記得生日和週年慶，偶而羅曼蒂克一下，這樣的男人就可以嫁。
同學中有過了四十歲而未婚或離婚的，擇偶條件又有所變動，只要不太醜禿頭沒關係，有個固定工作就很不錯，穿衣服的時候懂得把凸出的肚皮遮住，記得上廁所的時候把馬桶蓋放下，週末也肯刮鬍子就是不錯的人選了。
過了五十大關新寡的朋友說她擇偶的條件調整很多，只要不在公共場合亂抓癢讓人尷尬，別太常向人家借錢，看電視別一直點頭一下就睡著，別一直講同樣笑話太多次，從沙發上能一下就爬起來，懂得自己穿配對的襪子和乾淨的內衣褲，可以一起坐著看共同喜愛的電視節目的人就可以是結婚人選了。
認識的朋友母親中，年過六十的女人在找對象的也有，有一位開自己玩笑說，好不好看已經不重要，只要不看了嚇人就好，尤其小小孩看了別怕的長相就可以，睡覺的時候打鼾別太大聲，晚上起來上廁所的時候還記得廁所的方向，記得剛才自己位什麼而笑，記得假牙眼鏡助聽器放在哪兒，記得今年是西元幾年，現在是週末還是周日。
在老人公寓遇到一位獨居的七十來歲伯母，她有意找個老伴，但她說因為女人太長壽，在老人公寓裡男士們變得奇貨可居，所以她擇偶的條件不高，只要還能自己呼吸，自己上廁所，自己吃飯，她都可以考慮。
從少女到資深美女，一路行來的心路歷程，從擇偶條件的變化看來不可為不大。
留言
我不相信七十歲的老女人還會想自找麻煩
到四十多歲還會為擇偶而下降自己的條件的
該先看心理醫生
麻辣得過火而失真 不是blog 的本意
發表: Anonymous | November 25, 2007 08:08 AM
I agree with Ms. Wu. in some points.
發表: Anonymous | November 25, 2007 04:40 PM
I don't need men, one person much happier!
發表: mimi | November 25, 2007 06:30 PM
Hilarious!
I love Ms. Wu's humor!!!!
發表: betty | November 26, 2007 09:59 AM
Ms. Wu: Thanks for the writing.
Your supporters.
發表: Anonymous | November 28, 2007 03:18 PM
I always enjoy Ms. Wu's writings. They always put smiles on my face and warm my heart !
This article has much truth in it ! Unfortunately, men always like to have younger women instead of someone compatible with them in ages and minds. Also, why do women have to put these conditions on themselves to choose their marriage partners ? We shouldn't lower our standards just because we are getting older !
I believe we are as young or as old as we feel !
MMB from NYC
發表: MMB | November 30, 2007 05:43 PM
I always enjoy Ms. Wu's writings. They always put smiles on my face and warm my heart !
This article has much truth in it ! Unfortunately, men always like to have younger women instead of someone compatible with them in ages and minds. Also, why do women have to put these conditions on themselves to choose their marriage partners ? We shouldn't lower our standards just because we are getting older !
I believe we are as young or as old as we feel !
MMB from NYC
發表: MMB | November 30, 2007 05:44 PM
Dear Friend, Mimi:
When you are young, you can live alone and you are happy. However, what happen if you are getting older and older? You might need someboady to talk to, especially during the winter when you watch the maple leaves turned to yellow, purple, and red. Make 2 in the family, you will feel happy all the times.
發表: Peter Hsu | December 12, 2007 05:13 PM
寯永散文，筆法清新簡潔，點到為止，放而能收，引證中外兼採，行文莊諧並作，時而誇張令人驚喜，時而含蓄令人尋思。
發表: wendy | December 13, 2007 08:15 PM